Chapter Three


The Primary Goal this week is to help identify where each person is in their relationship with God.  It's one thing to know you can have a relationship with God, it's another thing to actually have one.  My mother-in-law thought she was a Christian.  She went to a neighborhood Bible study and heard for the first time that each of us have to make a personal decision to accept Christ as our Savior and begin a relationship with Him.  She couldn't believe she had never heard that!  There may be people in your group who don't know that either.  Others in our group may know it but they aren't ready to do it.  Others may have accepted Christ 50 years ago but the relationship is stale.  You will probably also have people at every stage in between!  Assure the group that you want this to be a safe place for everyone to explore who God really is and what implications that may have on their life.  Every new stage of a relationship requires a first step.  By the end of your group discussion we pray everyone knows what the next step in his/her relationship with God will be. 

FYI, Appendix A contains a Gospel presentation for anyone who is ready to place their trust in Jesus.  You may want to review it before the group meets.

Ice Breaker Question:

* When you want to relax, where do you go, what do you do and who do you like to relax with?


Some people say that just thinking about God causes stress, while others go to Him when they need to relax.  What do you think makes the difference?

Talk about it:  You can have a relationship with Me

"I will be your Father, and you will be My sons and daughters, says the LORD Almighty."

(2 Corinthians 6:18)

1.  What do you think of the statement, "You can't trust someone you don't know?"  How does this impact our relationship with God?

2.  On a scale of 1 --- 10, how would you rate your trust in God?  What are the top two reasons why?

3.  On a scale of 1 -- 10, how would you rate God's desire to have a close relationship with you?

4.  Read Jeremiah 31:3.  What does this verse reveal about God's desire for a deep and personal relationship with you?

5.  Describe what you would do to get to know someone better.  How does this apply to getting to know God better?

6.  How does it make you feel when someone assumes they know what you think or feel but are totally off base?  Do you think there are areas where you could be off base in how you see God?

7.  How can you begin to remedy and misconceptions about God that you may unwittingly have?

Focus on God

God longs to be in a relationship with you that grows with each new day.  He won't force you to know Him, but if you ask Him to help you know Him He will jump at the chance!  No matter where you are in our spiritual journey, you can alwys know Him better.  You can start by praying something like the following in your own words.  If you really mean it, He will answer.

Dear God, I want to know You as You really are, the Creator God of the universe, our heavenly Father.  You hold everything in Your hand, and You know my past, present, and future.  Help me to love, trust, and obey You with all my heart, soul, mind, and will.  Thank You for giving me an opportunity to know You intimately as my heavenly Father and to tell others about You and Your marvelous love.  Amen

Continue to review the statement and verse you wrote down last week, at least three times each day, to remind yourself that God is personal and wants a deeper relationship with you.


God, because You are Personal,

I will seek a deep relationship with You,

"I have called you friends, for everything

that I learned from My Father I have made

known to you."

(John 15:15, NIV)